caedence amina mubarak

chione thii mubarak was born on july 31st, 1989 to kunal and sharmila mubarak. kunal had two children prior to his marriage to sharmila, with his first wife nadia. his first marriage to nadia was an arranged marriage by his parents that lasted twelve years until nadia's passing. sharmila took on the burden of raising kunal iii and jafari before the birth of chione (caedence).

upon chione's fifth birthday, her name was changed legally to caedence amina to ensure she didn't grow up with ridicule for her heritage. during this time, her personality was developing and she had come to learn the reality of her brothers having more freedoms than she was afforded. in fact, she was usually left to play indoors with her cousins while her brothers were able to play with the neighborhood children.

in elementary school, caedence was allowed to wear normal clothing. however, jeans and leggings were a twice a week deal, sometimes being only allowed to wear leggings under her dresses. her mother tried to preserve her father's culture as much as possible, however giving her child the freedom to match her clothing as she saw fit given that her body remained covered.

as caedence was approaching her ninth year of life, sharmila gave birth to samir, the last of the mubarak children. when samir was born, caedence became protective of her younger brother and was often trying to take care of him with her mother until he became of age to walk and talk. caedence got along well with all of her brothers, except kunal iii, who more or less treated caedence as if she were his personal slave.

forbidden to date due to religious and traditional reasons, caedence came into puberty at an awkward stage. she didn't really like what was happening to her body and that made it awkward. instead of wearing clothes that fit her, she found herself changing at a friend's house into sweats or just large t-shirts to hide the fact her body was changing. while she was able to wear bras and whatever underwear she wanted, she just didn't feel that the changes her body were going through were natural. at eleven, almost twelve she was trying to figure out ways to hide the fact her body was filling out. while other girls were proud of the new developments, caedence tried to hide it as best as she possibly could.

middle school, caedence began to find her own beat to march to. while at home and in her classes she was able to maintain good enough grades and get in little to no trouble, outside of school she would skip practices to hang with the local children. it was at this point she had experienced her first actual drink of liquor and second-hand high. while she didn't like neither much, it was the price she was going to pay for hanging out with the more popular neighbor/school kids.

kunal and sharmila had realized a change in caedence and jafari as they had got older and while he had always wanted to move from east oakland, it now seemed like the time to do so. the move had been done during spring break during her eighth grade year with what seemed at random. none of the children much liked the idea of a move but it was going to happen regardless of what any of the children wanted. jafari, caedence and samir had no choice but to adjust to their new surroundings. with family close by it wasn't too much of a change but there was an obvious dislike for the new surroundings. jafari had his license so from time to time, he and caedence would go back to oakland to hang out with friends and keep up with what was going on.

for kunal, caedence was always the hardest of his children to manage. he often raised a hand to his daughter in an attempt to keep her in line but it was having less and less of an effect on her as time went on. at the age of fifteen he insisted by the time she was sixteen she had to have a job and all this did was make things worse. as caedence landed her first job at footlocker, she was starting to make other decisions with her life that he didn't much approve of. first was the change in her clothes; his somewhat tomboyish daughter found herself in short dresses and clothes that were fitting or maybe a size too small all in spite of her father making her get out and work for money. most of her female cousins, even americanized, didn't have to work for extra money but because of kunal attempting to teach his daughter a lesson, she was made to work. spiteful as she could be, she managed to keep her job and even pick up as many extra shifts as possible.

tradition was a big thing for kunal when it came to his slightly unruly daughter. instead of spending her seventeenth summer at home and working, she was forced to return to egypt by herself. while kunal was convinced the strict household of his great grandmother would prove to straighten his daughter out, his main objective (unbeknownst to caedence when she left) was for his daughter to meet her future husband. while there, her grandmother introduced her to different males who seemed almost too set in their ways to be bothered with an americanized girl who was not of pure race. three males whom stood out to caedence, were not exactly the ones originally slated to marry the girl once she finished college. one night while out shopping with her great aunt, the woman had spilled the real reason behind the trip days before caedence's return. not sitting well with the idea of her future being decided based on monetary gain for her family's "best interest", she pretended to know what was going on and kept her personal feelings a secret until she got home.

one stipulation about the arranged marriage was that caedence had to be pure/a virgin and this was something she had been able to maintain for years believing it would simply benefit her later, however the trip to egypt had proven it's real purpose. the ban on dating still in place, caedence decided once she got back home she was going to finally explore dating. while at first everything was fine, things took a turn when she met a young boy named scott. scott was from her old neighborhood and was into a lot of things her father wouldn't approve of, as if him being irish alone wasn't enough. caedence had brought him home to meet her mother, whom at first didn't see any harm in it until kunal found out about it. by the time caedence was months eighteen she was no longer a virgin and things started to go further downhill from there.

the loss of her virginity caused a problem within her family and eventually got her kicked out of the house. kunal, being tired of his daughter's antics had decided the best love to give her was tough love. being kicked out of her house, caedence moved from milpitas back to oakland with her mother's side of the family. school and work were what her life consisted of until she had finished high school completely. she had done home schooling for the rest of the first semester of her senior year as well as the rest of the year. home schooling left the option for her to work more hours and save up money to put herself through college. as bright as she was, she managed to finish her senior year two months and some change early and begun to apply for colleges. she struggled trying to find the money for school with her father having cut her off and took up multiple side jobs to keep her cash flow increasing. she did different things outside of her jobs at footlocker and elephant bar, ranging from doing hair and make up to babysitting the neighbor kids.

by the time she had applied to all of the universities she could possibly think of, caedence had become exhausted with the process and decided against going straight to a university until she could get more grants and possibly enhance her tennis skills to help her. ohlone community college was her first stop for higher education, the courses were a lot cheaper and everything could either be done online or just by going to class. mixing and matching her schedule had become easy to manage and her schooling was done even through summer. instead of just attending fall and spring, she took it upon herself to do summer courses and any extra workshop she could get into so that when she had applied for grants and got her transfer credits ready, everything worked in her favor.

ready to transfer, she had gotten most of her schooling paid for and her father had opened up to her once caedence had made her move to north carolina for school. despite her father agreeing to kick in, caedence decided against tapping into the money saved for her college fund which wasn't being offered in it's entirety. kunal had set limitations on how much she could use to the point caedence decided to do whatever she could on her own unless she absolutely needed it and only then would she call sharmila.

while in college at unc, money became a major concern. working two jobs while trying to maintain the required gpa for her grants and scholarship became harder and harder with no help from her father. after falling into debt twice, caedence took up work at a gentlemen's club as a server. keeping an awkward schedule to say the least, caedence was able to keep her side profession a secret until a classmate ran into her at the club. he managed to keep it a secret, holding it over her head until they came to a mutual understanding about her reason for working there and she understood his background a bit better. both troubled, they formed a rather unlikely "friendship" that became a comfort zone for caedence being he reminded her of people from home.

attempting to immerse herself in the full college life, caedence found herself out at various parties and agreeing to go on random trips with peers she had no real connection to, which is where she met the only other male besides scott she had ever considered something "worth meaning". caedence and ruben were lumped together in the backseat on a car trip to miami, florida for spring break. of course at the time neither knew much about each other but that would change when they shared a hotel room for the trip. a familiarity with where she grew up, ruben knew the music and the area that caedy was from making it easiest for them to vibe on a personal level. months of small dates and courtship ended on a rocky note because of caedy's hesitation with romantic relationships. where he wanted a full relationship, caedy was a lot more reserved and apprehensive about putting herself out there in a way she couldn't hide herself from. though they were never a real couple, caedy found herself regretting the fact she could not redo the situation and change the outcome.

through caedy's relationship with ruben and another female friend, cam, she had learned to open up a bit more and explore new things. encouraged to find a sorority, caedence rushed but did not go through with the process in the long run as her heart was not in it. tennis and studies became a focal point, but caedence remained social enough to be seen but reserved enough as to keep her private life to herself. uncomfortable with her personal image and religion, ruben often gave encouraging conversations about accepting her body and aided her in finding buddhism.

striving to be a therapist or at least help at risk youth, caedy majored in psychology and minored in sociology; toward the end of her undergrad program caedence decided to put off more schooling in an attempt to find herself. due to trips out of the country on different backpack and relief efforts, caedence finds herself more well-rounded and looking toward settling into one place. instead of trying to plan her life out now, she lives more so day by day and takes different online courses to sharpen skills and become more rounded for her own personal sense of security with the current economy.